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Originally Posted by Onward2wards
I notice I get myself in low mood states due to ridiculous excuses for NOT doing the things most likely to make me feel more confident, and less anxious or depressed! I believe it's a learned pattern of risk avoidance due to low self confidence. This is getting annoying. I only seem to see it in hindsight, it all happens too rapidly and subtly for me to catch myself in the act, when I could disrupt the pattern and help myself.
Please share any techniques you have found that stop this. I'm beyond fed up with myself at this point. I really need help with it.
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Hello O2w's: Boy... I could use some tips for this too. In fact I'm right in the midst of one of these episodes right now. I sailed into some stormy seas, so to speak, a few days ago. As a result, I became depressed (more-so than usual) & began to feel drained of emotional energy. So, as usual, my yoga & meditation practices went to... well... you know... So now I'm not only still depressed & drained of emotional energy as a result of the "stormy seas" I sailed into. Now I'm also depressed & drained realizing I've done it again... abandoned one of the most important things I do.
I don't know if scheduling a time to do whatever it is you're not doing would help. Or perhaps giving yourself a special reward once you've done it. Another idea would be to plan to do things with someone else so, if you back out, they lose out too.
For me, I just seem to fall into a state of simply not caring whether I do anything or not... & so I don't. Then I start feeling even worse than I did to begin with. It becomes a vicious circle. And, like you, now I can see what I've done, & it's exasperating. Personally, I could even see it happening, while it was happening. But I seem powerless to stop it. It's a conundrum...
