I'm thinking the bear hug, or having a preplanned redirect. It's about helping her to learn to self sooth her anxiety and frustration. Figure, her inner anger is a combination of numerous emotions. Beyond the I am mad, sad faces.

Bet others will have good suggestions, as they usually do.

Can remind her, she is safe. Repetitious. Repiration, is also teaching her to apologize for that behavior. In turn, teaching empathy.