Hey everyone. I've been absent for a while and have missed posting here.
So my T and I are working on strategies to help me cope between sessions. When I first started therapy, it activated my attachment issues and triggered what my T has called "a waterfall of need". I find it hard to cope between sessions and often feel like an abandoned baby.
We are looking at ways to help me hold onto the idea of my T as a good and caring person, and things he can do that will help soothe and contain me. Sadly a 24/7 phone line to my T is not an option... I'm having a really hard time coping right now so anything that helps in the short term will be worth trying.
Things that currently help:
- Voice memo of my T reading his voicemail greeting
- Some other voice memos
- A list I've made of helpful things he's said, many of which help me recall positive memories
- A toy I borrowed from his office
- A copy of his marketing leaflet
- A piece of card on which he wrote "I won't abandon you"
Things my T has agreed to do:
- Make more voice memos
- Write some of the helpful things from my list on pieces of paper so I can fold them up and pick them out of a jar
Things I want to suggest but haven't yet:
- Ask my T to write my appointments in my diary so they're in his handwriting
- Use more transitional objects, though I'm not sure what
I feel a bit ridiculous posting this but I don't think I'm the only person who needs ways to hold the idea of their T between sessions so I thought it might help to share strategies.
If anyone has any more suggestions I would be very grateful!
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