I found the DBT distress tolerance skills really helpful and also doing many nurturing things for myself helpful, from art to a hot bath to planning a little getaway to napping, because then I could get the benefit and also report back to T and get her approval too.

Another transitional object I like is an Angel Card. I often ask her to pull one from the deck for me (I bought her a deck) and I focus on that word for the week. Each little card contains a positive term like "Freedom" "Humor" "Insight" etc. and a little picture of an Angel that embodies that word. Using the cards invites the energy of those little angels, those positive affirmations to help me through the week.