I met a girl at a club her an i were having sex we both decided in being prepared for the worst because she was going to college and i was starting my new business so we only had 2 months of knowing each other and i had told her that we should be always per cautious , little after 2 weeks into 2nd month she is pregnant. So i told her okay well lets take the morning after pill and she told me that she did not believe in any contraception for woman and i told her well what did we agreed to. She didn't listen so i told her my mind set where i stand with my work that it would be very complicated for her to actually be with me due to me always working. So she still decided in having my princess today , but prior to doing a blood test and confirming she is my daughter we split up because she had sent her ex boyfriend a text mesg that she missed him and loved him and that all she cares about is her him and her daughter. which that was like a low blow to me because i set my mind to having a family and she dazed off with a young 18 year old kid. Yes at that time she was 21 years old i was 27years old. So after the drama i saw my daughter and i figured in what the hek i should give it another shot but this time im going to try harder. I helped her with school i got a place close to her parent home, I bought her a car, i paid off all her credit cards, I took care of her so she can progress independently but with my help. Now we are here again 8months into the relationship and i re laps every so often i think about what she did and i cant stop throwing little dumb comments to her when she does a mistake i tell her to help her self be more independent so she can help me if my business ever goes BK... but I don't see no ambition in her I gave her 2 of my personal bills to help me pay for them and till this date she hasn't even tried . I honestly haven't told her i love her in a easy 7 months I don't think she is a bad person , but i feel like we just don't connect. I need a direction we just got a hold of someone at church to help me and her connect I really dont know how that would play out. Since im a factual person I would really want someone to give some wisdom so i can help my self , to be able to help my daughter mom if we are really meant for each other or not. Thank you all