Lets play devils advocate...or something like that.

Lets say she apologized, got help for whatever issues she has, and was able to manage her "symptoms". That is, things were peachy-keen again. The ONE thing that can't be fixed is the fact that she's already LIED to all of her friends about you. It doesn't matter if things were wonderful between you and the girl, her friends will always (and I do mean always) think of you as a woman beater. Who needs that kind of crap? I think that sometimes people lose sight of the bigger picture (not saying you are) in that they don't take into account feuding families or the arsehole friends, but the truth is that the bigger picture does indeed need to be looked at when considering if you want to spend your life with someone. Would you really want to be with a woman who's friends all viewed you as a batterer? (Especially since she lied and told them that?....Even if she retracted her statement to them, the friends would just think that she's doing so to make you happy and not because its the truth.) You'd be fighting off the negativity for the entire duration of your relationship (and yes, it would most likely have an effect on your relationship!) You don't need that drama...... Yes, the focus in a relationship should always be on the two involved, but you can't deny the power of outside forces. You'll always be the bad guy to them. Who needs that sort of drama?

If I was dating a guy and his friends hated me because he was talking smack about me to them, you better believe that I'd bail. Life is too short for that kind of stuff.