My husband was controlling, verbally and emotionally abusive. He used to push me, hard, which I didn't know is against the law.

One morning I came home from working night shift at the hospital. I got our one year old daughter ready for the babysitter. My husband dropped her off at the sitter on his way to work. After they left, I found he had punched several holes in the bathroom wall. He says he did it because our daughter cried and woke him up. His comment was, "Would you rather i hit her!?"

I was frantic. I knew I had to leave him, and I did.

Anyway, I've been there. I know it isn't easy.

I hope your T is working with you to plan a safe escape. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline and they will help you leave safely.

1-800-799-7233

The National Domestic Violence Hotline | Path to Safety

Do you have relatives, parents, brothers, sisters, aunts who will help you? Are you friends with any of your neighbors?

About being reliant on transportation to therapy: If you are disabled and on Medicare or Medicaid, your T can sign a paper that pays for a cab to bring you to therapy.

Please call the hotline. They would have more information about services and plans about safely leaving.

I wish you the best.