Thanks, HG. I can see that healthy people would respond better. For me, it is not exactly a question of health per se, but personal style I guess. Many people I know are intellectually oriented and though I thought this meant they were good about internal things, it turns out that they are good at thinking but not feeling. They are just blocked. I don't necessarily think of them as less healthy, just not oriented toward emotions.

With a few, it is also an issue of age. People are pretty set in their ways. They see a discussion about some pattern of interaction as an attack on them, feel criticized, and get defensive and sometimes aggressive. It is really hard to explain that talking about things to improve ways of interacting is a positive thing. I just don't know if there are ways of doing this that I could learn about so it might have a possibility of going better.