Thanks for your replies. I do feel a connection, your questions have made me realise that I have a strong connection, but it feels painful having it. I wish she would say nice things to me, do therapists ever say nice things? I've said to her in the past that I find therapy focuses on the negative. I've told her about a couple of things I'm proud of doing and she seems to have drawn out a negative from them. I feel that she challenges me on things without knowing all the facts as I haven't had a chance to talk to her about things. Since I wrote her an email she has adapted and she now talks much less in the sessions and we have some moments of silence, and either she or I now fill the silences which is better. I feel that I can talk to her about all this, but it is so difficult.

Thanks for taking the time to look at my previous post Lickety.

I know no-one can make this decision for me - whether to carry on or not with her. I worry that I'll stick with her for two years or so but it will be a mistake and that I would have been better off switching. Is it possible that therapy with her can. become less painful? I imagine that if I start again with someone else it will be easier, I'll have a bit of experience and know my needs a bit more. I will definitely say at the start that I'm not a confident person, and if I get challenges and find it difficult I will be able to say straight away and hopefully we can discuss why I find it difficult.

Petra5ed it doesn't seem that simple to me - just a question of whether I love her - love can be destructive. You are probably right about starting off with lies not being wise.