I dont know about england (where your profile says you are) but here in america everyone is free to say what ever they please including things like telling a care provider that they are old, young, didnt do something right, heck we even have a thing called nanny cams (camera's inside toys, stuffed animals, baby bags, back packs) that parents can use to assess whether those they trust their children to are doing whats best for the children in daycare/babysitting situations. my point is here in america a parent or other adult concerned about someones abilities for caring for children is free to say what they want to say to the care providers. I have 2 children that go to daycare and I do not hesitate to tell the daycare providers what I think about them including their age. sometimes a persons age can reflect on their abilities example the daycare my children go to there is an 80'yr old care provider. before I would leave my children alone with this person I had to make sure this person was up to date on the present standards for parenting/caring for children. in her child bearing years it was completely acceptable in america for care providers to psychically discipline (spank, hit, snap, soap in the mouth, eat everything on your plate, all kinds of stuff that is now no longer considered acceptable for caring for a child in a daycare setting.) I also question those and am verbal with those who have no children and working in a daycare.

my point of view it, Im not bringing my children to daycare to kiss up to and make the daycare provider happy, dont hurt their feelings. its a business relationship. if something I say hurts their feelings them maybe they shouldnt be in a job where they have to deal with the public attitudes of parents putting the children first over the daycare providers feelings.

that said here in america the daycare providers are free to tell the parents they work for that they didnt like what they said and to tell them not to bring their children in to them any more.

I did encounter one daycare provider that told me they didnt like what I said to them and that I had hurt their feelings and could I not say that to them again. I laughed and told them Im sorry but you cant control others you can only control yourself. where it comes to my children I will tell you daycare providers what I think of you and how you do your job, I will if I decide you are not capable of caring for my children, even if its just your age I will take them elsewhere. And I did.

Just like when they enter school I will be an active parent doing my parental responsibilities of making sure not only are the children doing what they are supposed to be doing, but that the teachers are competent and doing their jobs to educate the children. Im not going to worry about whether what I say may hurt the teachers feelings. its a job and the most important component is the children not a teachers feelings because someone says to them I dont think you are capable of doing this job with my children.

just my opinion on this.