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Originally Posted by archipelago
In the cases I'm thinking of all the people are seniors so expecting them to change so much when they've spent a very long time doing things another way seems like it may be too much to ask for. Again, though I don't want to be that way myself, I'm not sure that I can say they are unhealthy. They learned how to be in the world when the world was different. It is as much a cultural difference as a personal thing. Perhaps that is why it just feels so frustrating. I want to be able to relate in a way that to me feels more open and flexible, but I can't expect others to feel that way too.
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Oh, I forgot to mention in my other post that as a person who is pretty dang close to the "senior" range, I really don't find seniors any more stuck in their ways than middle agers, young adults and youngsters when it comes to relationship issues
I feel that it's important to process and see all sides of the discussion--not just my side. And I know plenty of seniors who act in a similar way . . . And, I also know plenty of young people who are so stuck in being right that they can't get beyond, "How can you think that way? I'm right and you're wrong and I'm not going to discuss it anymore." :::::stomp! stomp! stomp!:::: Dealing with relationships effectively is a skill. Some people learn it at a young age, some in middle age, some in their "golden years" and some NEVER.
Of course, some of us older people kind of get stuck in a rut when it comes to our routines. I sure get cranky when someone bothers me in the morning when I'm having my coffee and reading PC
