I have been working with my male therapist about 9 months now. In the beginning of therapy there was zero touch- not even a handshake. I didn't have any expectation of what therapy would be like or anything to compare it to so I figured that was the norm.

Over the last 2 months, T has slowly been adding in touch. First it started with a pat on the back or a quick back rub as I was exiting his office. Then it has progressed to him asking me for a hug after every single session (twice a week). These were quick side hugs with one arm. I have never asked for a hug.

On Monday upon entering his office, 10 minutes into the session he asked if he could massage my shoulder because I seemed tense. I was kind of taken back but said ok. He got up from his chair and sat next to me and rubbed my shoulder for about 20-30 seconds and encouraged me to relax.

Today after a particularly intense session recounting specifics of CSA he asked if he could give me a "real hug". I said sure and we embraced for a minute straight.

Is this appropriate? I don't have any romantic feelings towards him, and generally feel safe, but I'm wondering about the increase in physical touch and if it's ethical. I don't really feel uncomfortable, but if it went any further I would. I don't want anything to ruin the rapport I have with him.