Good point.

Yes, I think it's a self-esteem issue. I've been worried all my life because of my foreskin. Having a non-retractable one was a reason for me to feel ashamed of my own body. And although I got circumcised, I'm aware it takes time to get used to it. I don't expect (I shouldn't expect) overnight changes.

It's a self-esteem issue as it has a lot to do with the need to feel accepted, with the need to seek for validation in others.

I wasted many years in denial. Instead of grewing some balls and undergoing surgery, I focused in other so called problems, only in order to cover up the underlying real problem. It was being self-conscious and having a complex about my tight foreskin (the way it worked, the way it looked) what prevented me from getting intimate with anyone else. Yet, I would discard and ignore it and make myself believe I was shy or whatever. As I said, I wasted many years worrying about something that was not the real problem. I would spend eternal hours reading on-line about how to be more confident towards women, how to be an alpha-male and all that kind of stupid stuff. I even met a girl (over an on-line dating site) who would lecture me about how I should stop being whatever I was in her eyes and start behaving like an "alpha male".

(Funny thing, I was not sexually interested in her, but I thought she could have the answers I supossedly was looking for... And I don't mean to be rude, but damn, I was asking for advice from someone who was sexually molested during her childhood! Is there any wonder she liked "agressive and dominant alpha males" the best?)

So... Maybe it's a matter of lacking experience in the field, to put it somehow. I probably should start building my own point of view, not by asking others about what is wrong and what is right, but living out things directly, by myself. Of course, looking for support in here is a whole different ballgame, since I'm not asking others what is wrong and what is right, but instead questioning the need of asking such thing. Hope you understand.