I don't know, but this sure sounds like conditional love to me. My parents love has been very conditional like that. Funny now that I have grown up and am so lovable (successful) to them, I think they are scum of the earth.

If my kid was a mass murderer then I would consider that a complete failure. If my kid was a high school drop out then... Whatever. Takes some longer to grow up than others. I don't know it all. Everyone is important, just not mass murderers...