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I do not see problems with either side asking for hugs but I did get the creep factor when he wanted to massage you. For me, geeting massaged by a man means I am on a massage table or about to have sex with him. Nothing in between. If you are massaging me you better be having sex with me. That is just my conditioning.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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