Sounds like everything is on track. It is awkward; it is unusual; it is both enticing and repellent. If I remember correctly, we tended to go in cycles of talking about in the moment interactions. For those sessions, it would be intense, but then it might be a month or two before engaging in that way again. It was never planned on my part; I think it was planned a couple of times on his part.

Your T doesn't sound the type to be easily flustered, nor to take things said defensively. If you're very hesitant, you can always phrase a statement as a question: "When you say ___, I notice I feel ____: why is that?"