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Old Sep 18, 2014, 09:07 AM
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Originally Posted by seraphic View Post
As a side note, though, implyinh that someone likes "assertive dominant males" because they were molested is in fact really rude and insensitive, so please don't do that.
Thank you. And yes, I've been rude and insensitive. And I know someone can feel offended. It's just that that person was rude to me in first place. Mind you: we've started chatting and she'd already made a cold scan of my personality, and felt empowered to mark my flaws as, needless to say, "weak" and "unmanly".

Anyway, sorry if I offended you or anyone else.

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Originally Posted by Angel of Bedlam View Post
Pretty much. I get in top and my husband will grab my hips and move them and kinda have control that way. You could try that. He'll grab my breasts and just touch me all over. Be engaged with her, I think that'll help.
I love doing that. In fact, is in that position when I can touch more and the better!

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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster View Post
It does not stink of anything - it is just not very smart.

You are right to focus on the title, because the wording itself is the problem. If you get rid of "letting" and change to "enjoying," there is no issue and no topic for a thread.
Nailed it!

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Originally Posted by A Red Panda View Post
My bf's favourite positions are having me on top and doggy-style.

I don't enjoy being on top, but it's because I'm self-conscious of how exposed I am (yet that's what he likes about it!) and I have a hard time staying focused so my rythym is not steady. We'll often start that way, and he does often grab onto my hips and move me himself, haha.

I don't view him as less manly at all. In fact, I appreciate it because he doesn't feel the need to be "in control" of me - although I enjoy giving the control to him.
It's just me and my tendency, I guess, to see relationship as a matter of power plays. Bad experiences in the past, I think. Thank you.

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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet View Post
Being on the bottom doesn't necessarily mean you are submissive, and being on top doesn't make you dominant. There is a whole discussion about who is really in charge even in sadomasochistic play, let alone conventional intercourse.

The position of woman on top can be viewed either way. It can be viewed on her pleasuring you and thus being servile, or her being aggressive and thus dominant.
That's something to keep chewing on... Thanks!
Thanks for this!
hamster-bamster