A friend of mine had an unplanned pregnancy a few years ago and I lost touch with her when her child was about 1. I reconnected with her tonight and I found out she is pregnant again.
Now I know she is still with the father of her other child and I know that he is an unapologetic arsehole who is at time emotionally abusive. For most of her pregnancy and up until I lost touch he was threatening to leave in a way that made it seem like he couldn't care either way if they were in his life. So this news obviously had me a little shocked.
What I did not expect was the fear and uncertainty in MYSELF that this news brought.
I thought about it and I think I narrowed it down to my feelings about my mother and her multiple pregnancies. Or possibly because I know the circumstances of the first and my mind came up with some wonderful ideas about the circumstances of this one.
I wasn't able to ask because it didn't sink in until we were parting ways.
I know I seem selfish but dang these emotions.
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“There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn't matter anymore.” - Wintergirls
Things to keep in mind when interacting with me:
1. Do not try to medicate me. I am not on medication for a very good reason.
2. I don't do hugs.
3. If I ask for help, it is because I am at the breaking point, otherwise I have a bad habit of keeping quiet. Please do not brush me off.
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