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Old Sep 18, 2014, 10:59 AM
jadzea jadzea is offline
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I used to have friend who talked about things I didn't like to talk about too. Finally, one day I called her specifically to address this issue. I told her that I did not like talking about ______ (fill in the blank) and asked her to please stop bringing it up. I told her that I really wanted her to agree because if she did not I could not talk to her anymore. She stopped right away.

She also used to call me to complain about her bad day at work and how much she hated her bosses, etc. I got tired of having her ruin my evenings with her negativity. I told her that every time she told me the events of her day she was reliving them and making herself feel worse. I suggested we allow 10 minutes for her to vent and then change the subject and talk about more positive things. That one didn't work and eventually she ended the friendship because I no longer let her be so negative. At first I felt bad but shortly thereafter I realized that she was a toxic person and I was better off without her.

Good luck, whatever you do. It is not an easy situation but you need to do what you need to do for yourself first. If things are so bad that she has to do that much venting, she needs a therapist.
Thanks for this!
JoeS21