I don't have a romantic relationship but I have a business partnership and I'm in the US and my partner is in Sussex and we've been working together for 5 years with a couple visits. I recently got a degree at Oxford online and hope to be wandering over in the Spring to do the whole stage/diploma thing and will wander down to see her then and work with her for a couple days.

Do you all think about when she will be finished school and what you will do then? It could be that you could maybe get a better job where you are and save money for whatever you decide or maybe save money so you could see each other more often or something (I flew my London partner to a location so we could research together). I would think about the various cost of living and types of jobs you all have/want, what sort of lifestyle you want, etc. What is she studying and what did you study/kind of work do you do?