Well I know the first one was the result of a bottle of vodka and a bottle of tequila so birth control was not on their mind. I guess because I haven't seen him for a couple of years I can't tell if he's still that way, he may have grown up with the responsibility of a child. I am a little concerned for her but she seems to have adapted quite well to studying and being a mother.

I really think it has to do with my own mother.
I met her earlier this year and we discussed what happened, because she abandoned me at birth and had my subsequent siblings taken from her.
To give you an idea of how stable her life was, she thought I would be mad when she told me that she almost got married years ago.
Because of my childhood I am not a pro-lifer because I believe in quality of life over existence and my mother said she would never have considered abortion because it may make her infertile.

My ex-mate told me that he tried for many years to get snipped because he never wanted to be a father, even 3 years on he still lives separately from her, and she still lives with her disabled mother and 3 siblings and is still a couple of years away from being able to get employment, so I guess I worry about the quality of life the children may have and irrationally worry that she may have another.

Or maybe it's just the pregnancy as she is the first person I have known during the pregnancy stage. I have a few friends with almost teenage children.

Just the thought of the whole situation fills me with panic and I hate not being able to understand my feelings.