I love FB and it boosts my self-esteem because my old friends whom I have not seen in 20+ years as well as their friends whom I have never met, as well as some people I "met" on Facebook basically take an interest in my life, my stories, the photos I post of my cats, my crafts creations, and occasionally myself, as well as music I share. It is like a great, tight support network spread beneath me and covering a big part of the globe. Also, discussion groups are an outlet for wittiness, which sometimes is needed.

I think your issue is that you are passive on facebook and only read and view updates from friends. get into discussion groups and the like - be active and that would pay off.

I am in San Jose and I had one man from San Diego propose to me (!!!) based on our interactions in discussions of politics and culture and a couple of headshots that I have as profile pictures. It was the first time I received a marriage proposal from somebody I had not met in person. Obviously, I won't be taking it, but it was fun.