I think if you believe that you always have to appear in control and dominant to be a man, then you have misunderstood what manhood is about... Having the woman run the show in bed sometimes can be pleasurable to both sexes, and it doesn't make you less of a man. In fact, it makes you more of a man because it shows you are a person secure enough of your own sexuality and identity that you have no problems with having others in charge. A real man (or woman) is someone who is confident, and what you are showing now is insecurity.

Most women love being on top, and isn't pleasing a woman in bed one of the "manliest" thing there is (if both parts are straight, that is)? A lot of men are selfish and rude and believe they are more manly for taking what they want and not caring about others, but it's the opposite. They will never please a woman, just themselves. That not only makes them less of a man, but also less of a person.