Well, it's come up so many ways and times I can hardly specify, but I remember one of the first major discussions we had directly about it, I was telling her about how I'd attached to other figures earlier in life, the teacher's pet, the hanger-on on a crisis line, etc., what a complex relationship I'd had with many women.

I'd been crying and somehow admitted/explained how trying it had been for me, that history of attaching to women for the short term. And then somehow I was telling her about how I just wanted stability with her, someone to rely on, long term, and she was so welcoming and sympathetic and understanding, because she'd been that girl too.

Her ability to.... be open to me is seemingly boundless. Amazing and transformative.