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Originally Posted by Bill3
I am wondering about something. What does he contribute around the apartment? How much does he plan meals, cook, clean up, wash dishes, change the bed, keep his stuff in reasonable order, do laundry, care for pets and plants (if any), go shopping, clean bathrooms, fix stuff, do favors for you, make you feel treasured in non-monetary ways? It would seem that he has the time to contribute in these ways.
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I’m glad you’re asking me this. The reason why I don’t talk about this with my loved ones is because people are quick to say “Oh, leave him, he’s using you!” … and I don’t know if that’s fair either. He does cook, also does laundry (although I have to fold the clothes ‘cause he sucks at it). He looks after me whenever I’m out late at night, whenever I have panic attacks (I live a very stressful life) I call him and he stops what he is doing to sooth me and help me get through those few panic minutes, and he is very loving with me. For our last anniversary, he paid for dinner even though he was VERY tight on money ("You have done too much for me already, this is the least I can do") and that made me cry...!
As far as relationships, he had an on-and-off girlfriend for 7 years. Money wasn’t an issue because they were both students. They broke up because of they would fight a lot,… and we also fight a lot too, even though I’m not a person that gets easily irritated. I can surely say he has been the person that gets the worst out of me. Someone here mentioned “co-dependency” and I think that makes sense… I need him for emotional support, and he needs me for finance. And I have no doubts that he loves me as much as I love him,…. and that’s the reason why we endure our differences.
What bothers me the most is this money thing and not being able to get his ***** together, and the things that he says in order to convince me to pay his share of the rent or to lend him money. He just got a job as a salesman (obviously, he's great at it) … and maybe a should give him a last opportunity to prove himself, but I fear it might be too late. It’s been a week, and even though I’m in a business trip and taking a “break” for myself, I still feel like I resent him more than what I love him, you know? The only person that knows about this is my BFF and he tells me “You are not gonna break up with him just yet, I know it” … UGH! I feel so embarrassed. I mean,… I have enough to pay for my basic needs, I barely shop or hang out, I try to save money because my parents taught me the importance of it, but with him, I can’t. He does drags me down, and I can't believe in his words anymore.
