Hi there. Hope you don't see my comment as unsupportive because it's not my intention to invalidate your feelings and challenge your assumptions. After all you are the only one who actually knows the guy. I just wanted to say that from the convo you posted he does not come across as NPD. He does sound emotionally unavailable though. I noticed that he tried to be very polite and gave you a straight up answer as to why he didn't want to meet. I personally would not push beyond the first suggestion to get together. It is not unheard of that the person who works unusual hours needs to go to bed early Friday night. I wouldn't call my friend an old man for feeling tired either. Again, don't get me wrong, I am not trying to upset you here, but to me your responses came across a bit too high maintenance. It's not a very attractive trait. Not being able to take no for an answer isn't either. If I were your bf I'd be upset by your lack of understanding and an apparent attempt to make him run on your schedule. If I wanted someone to open up to me I'd ask some questions about what's bothering him and if he didn't want to talk I'd leave it at that. It's not very conducive to letting person in if he openly demands it on many occasions. How do you rate your interpersonal skills in general? In conclusion. My uneducated guess is, you are more into him than he is into you at this point. But he clearly likes you and if you don't push too hard you might work.I don't think he is NPD since there was nothing in that convo which would come across as manipulative or attention seeking he just didn't want to see you.