in Al-Anon, you're taught that you're aren't nearly as important to the user/addict as you think you are. it's a good lesson. you're sitting home, stewing and being miserable, and they aren't giving you a thought. i try to apply that to everyday happenings. the world may be my oyster but that oyster ain't revolving around me!

i'll check out both books. they sound very interesting.....i, too, am drawn to the darker sides of men. i could have that picket fence, but i'd be so busy trying to jump it......so what good could come from that? when Willie Nelson hired me, he told me that he saw no fear in my eyes when i looked at him......not as in being afraid of him, just no fear. i liked that.