Aren't we all brought up to suppress feelings frequently in our daily lives? I mean life becomes a game of compartmentalizing ourselves and bringing ourselves out only at allowed times. At work people are expected not to express certain feelings and develop a thick skin and let certain things roll off our back. In our personal lives it's like just the opposite: you're expected to express yourself as much as you possibly can. Personally, I'm not built to work in this mode of constantly building walls and opening them up. (Really messes with your head and builds frustration for me.) Some people have an easier time mastering it than others do. (I worked for a small group in the Air Force for a short time in a highly technical position and it really tested me. I mean it was odd what people shared and didn't share and how cold high-level senior employees were. They always talked about teamwork but I saw no evidence of it. I've seen better teamwork on Little League fields. I had to get out of there.) I apologize if I'm being too analytical for the OP or possibly not addressing the question.
(I read an article on Ben Affleck this week and he talked about this exact problem. He said that he holds things in for a long time and they usually come out later in a way that's not completely healthy. He said he has no control over it.)
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