Hmm. Yeah, I'm not sure. He really does have a lot of the characteristics (as per psych publications and forums) I can't swear he has it, but I'm pretty sure he has some sort of emotional issue. You're correct, I do not think he's grown up. He's actually in his mid 30's I'm in my early 30's. If he hasn't grown up yet, it's not likely he will. I know I need to stop contacting him. I'm beginning to think there's something wrong with ME. like I keep swearing to myself that I'll wait for him...3 says passes and I contact him. It's awful. It's like I'm afraid if I don't do it...neither will he...but I guess that's a good thing in the long run. If he's not going to do it, that's not something that I really want anyway. Ughhh. It's so awful. I was in a relationship for 8 years (married for 3) I haven't felt this way about anyone in a LONG time. He's also the first person I was..uhm..."with" after ending my marriage. I'm thinking that is where a good deal of my attachment lies. I just don't understand why he WILL NOT tell me he's not interested. Why won't he just say it?? He's not really the type to worry about hurting someone's feelings (in this type of situation) so that's not it...I just can't figure it out. I guess I need to just STOP trying to figure it out. Just wish it was easier. I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach.