I didn't get diagnosed with bipolar until within days of my wife filing divorce on me. Don't know if her knowing would have allowed things to work out or just ended them sooner. In any event, I went through a very difficult time with the divorce. But I'm happier now from a relationship standpoint. I don't feel stuck with somebody who doesn't understand or care about me. I still see my kids regularly. I'd have to agree with some of the others that you're better off to break free before it gets ugly.