I think about my t a lot too, I cannot imagine ever saying this to her, I'm happy to keep it to myself. At times I try to actively not think about her. At other times I try to take reassurance from thoughts of her. I also often find myself feeling the difficult feelings I am experiencing in therapy when I think about her, which is why I try not to think about her. I also don't know whether to stop. Is it really helping us? How can we know this? I feel better when I don't think about her.