She has tried telling me to use her as a good mother ( good lord, I don't thing the therapist would be one)

And
She tried telling me others do X or respond like X too. And a few times she tried telling me she also had a response like mine. Which to me is completely beside the point. It makes little to no difference what others do. And I assured her the fact she does or does not do something is certainly not a comfort or reassurance for me. First I consider her probably batty in her real life and two I would not think oh the therapist does this so it must be okay.