Yeah, some of us have had parents who were alcoholics and/or addicts and manipulated us by suicide threats and/or "accidental" overdoses or problems resulting from mixing of alcohol and drugs. However, pointing out to people problems with that kind of behavior isn't okay on the forum. Also, trying to help by pointing out other options or pointing out resources to use to actually change bad circumstances is not okay, even when done strictly in the way of saying that things do not have to continue as they are if you don't want them to, and here are some options. Just FYI, Lickety. Lessons learned the hard way.