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Sep 21, 2014, 12:14 PM
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It sounds like both your friend and your T are not very understanding. Maybe your T is not really a good fit for you? If she only adds to your stress and pain then maybe it's worth looking into finding someone better. After all, "stop feeling sorry for yourself" is one of the WORST things a person can say to someone who is depressed and worried, and if your T said it then maybe she's not exactly cut out for working with depressed people! Just my opinion. Anyway, I am sorry you've had to go through this on top of all your other stresses and worries. You're clearly in an overwhelming situation, and for two people that close to you to say that is insensitive. I also think it's worth telling your friend how her remark made you feel, because it sounds like she doesn't really understand the kind of stress you are in right now. However, if she's not really the kind of person you can openly talk to (and the fact that she'd say such a thing to you can only lead me to think she's not) then I understand. I've also had people make this remark to me on more than one occasion, and it's INFURIATING. Like you, I'm just really sick of hearing it! Is there maybe anyone else in your life you could talk to who would be more supportive than your friend and your T? 
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