This gives me the chills. I understand that each person's reasons for entering therapy and her/his expectations of what's allowable will vary, but I'm not okay with anything other than total transparency. If a therapist is trying to get me to see something a different way, I expect her to tell me that's what she's doing and what it is that informs her view. I'll listen and process it in my own way, but I don't want to be led into it.

My very first therapist was always trying different things. One day, she'd made such a departure from the usual that I said, Oh my God, did you read a new book? There was a long pause and she finally admitted that yes, she had read a new book and it changed her mind about her approach. If I hadn't asked, she would have kept on "practicing" her new theory without ever cluing me in. It was the beginning of the end.

Sorry for the rant, DYTM, your comment struck a chord with me.