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Sep 21, 2014, 07:39 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 2,100
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Trigger Warning for talk of emergency/death/suicidal ideation
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Today, a pretty intense moment happened at work in which a patient of mine passed away - essentially right in front of me in a matter of minutes. I work in an emergency room so, unfortunately, this isn't uncommon but this particular instance did catch me completely off guard. The woman was older but stable and completely coherent one moment and then, bam! she was on the downhill. She began to get sick; I tended to her and then realized something wasn't right in which I contacted someone and we immediately went into "life reviving" measures. The lady ultimately passed.
I was able to do my job but felt so hot and nauseated the whole time and kept feeling like in the thirty or so seconds that I was tending to her I should have been able to see where she was heading. I became emotional and my coworkers all told me that they likely wouldn't have done anything different had it been them. And, inconsolable, the doctor came in and told me that there was absolutely nothing I could have done and that due to her condition, today was simply "her day".
I feel better about it now, and when I had to evaluate what I would do differently, it would just be that when I was "checking to see if she was okay" that I would "automatically know she wasn't" and save those few seconds.
The point though is that working in an ER this is not uncommon. My coworker said they knew I was good at my job, one told me that this was my third day in a row that I was tired and over-thinking things. I reached out to a friend also in the medical field who listened and told me not to blame myself but was just like  I've never seen you respond like this and she couldn't really understand why this of all the horror stories she heard from me (i'm pretty "tough" apparantly) was the one to get to me. So, I started to wonder - this has been a rough two weeks for me (very depressed, considered overdosing type bad) and today was actually a superb day until this - maybe I was being overly sensitive? But, I can only assume that the reason is these depressed emotions i've been experiencing lately are spilling over into other emotions. I've been doing this job for three years and never honestly been affected like this, so why would this be any different (i had no personal ties and no more time with this than any other patient).
So I guess i'm wondering this. Those emotions that came out today felt so real, but T has told me that my emotions have a way of "coming out sideways" (i.e. being overly sensitive to things that perhaps don't need that degree of response). Is this one of those moments? Is the depression making me "dramatic" in other parts of my life or was it just a tough day?
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