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Originally Posted by Leah123
Sadly, I don't think it makes a difference: this relationship is so rife with conflict, obstacles and distrust that I really don't think you can make it worse. 
Just read what you've written...
none of this should need to be said in therapy. I'm sorry you're stuck in such an unhealthy relationship, and that you're even paying for the email portion...
it's like... you could find an abusive boyfriend for free for this garbage-laden treatment.
If you're determined to continue, well there are advantages either way: sending now gets it off your chest AND gives her time to deal with her reactions, which are likely to be very defensive given what I know of her. The advantage to waiting though is to better convey your vulnerability, which won't come through via this message and you may feel more anxious after sending if she doesn't reply or doesn't reply well to this as she hasn't replied to your previous message... |
she finally replied tonight:
Hey IRL,
My silence certainly wasn't meant as a punishment. I haven't responded because I needed some time to process how things have been going in your therapy with me and to formulate what I wanted to say to you.
After Wednesday, I found myself very weary of your accusations and complaints. It reminded me of the sessions we were having in May immediately before my contract was terminated by your insurance. These kind of sessions are very unpleasant and unproductive and Wednesday's session left me feeling closed off. Hence, no response until now.
See you Wednesday at 1pm.