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Originally Posted by Partless
My last therapist consistently told me to take better care of myself, to lose weight (for health reasons) and sleep on time (I sleep random times), eat better, go for a walk at least every other day, etc.
Given that I have no major commitment during the day, IF I WANTED IT, I'm sure I could do those things. In fact, they are simple enough for anybody to do. In other words, she was not asking me to run a marathon. Everything she said was reasonable and doable.
Today I was so fed up with myself (after taking care of myself quite well for a day or two I started again with bad habits) I decided to ask, anybody else struggle with this? Can we brainstorm some reasons why or why not? I mean aside from the fact that not taking care of yourself can become "habitual".
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Gosh, if my T told me to lose weight, he wouldn't be my T for very long. Over/comfort eating is my skewed attempt at self care and comfort... just a bit mixed up. I think weight, eating and food are absolutely linked to the care, or lack of it, that we might have received as infants. Don't get me started on health being equated to weight, it really isn't so.
I struggle with self-care and nurturing. I find it easier when I feel I have more internal resources or I feel I have support from outside. When I'm alone, I am completely alone and actually feel as though I might die. It is very odd that I often feel I might waste away... and yet, there really isn't any chance of that in reality. Perhaps that's linked to the overeating. I link it back to not having 'good enough' care as a baby; I was fed, clothed and cleaned but I think there was probably a lack of nurturing and emotional holding.