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Originally Posted by Aloneandafraid
Thank you so much growlycat.
He speaks his mind but isn't usually abusive to others although he always says what he thinks. But to me it is a constant stream of negative remarks, criticism, shouting - really shouting. Just horrible.
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(((Alone)))
Remember, all this negative sh^t he unloads on you - it's about him. He uses you as an emotional sink for all the things he can't bear to feel about himself.
He's not going to apologize or even feel bad about what he says because the mental gymnastics that he has to do to keep making his stuff about you makes it impossible. The only way to get him to back down is to throw his crap right back at him. And that is *hard*. Ask me how I know
Bottom line, you have to stop looking to him for any type of acceptance or validation. I know that's rough, because I'm sure at least a part of you still loves him (and that's normal and okay). Believe in yourself. You are a worthwhile and valuable person. You are kind and caring. And you do belong here.
