Hazel Girl, I think that may be part of the problem, his words are like a foreign language at 1st and now more of a harsh reality? Im just not sure why I want to rebel against him with it, I know logically he's not saying it to upset me but another part of my brain is saying he is...its kindv confusing.

Perna, that was actually a really good analogy, I might use it if I need to address this with him as a way of getting him to see what im seeing on this side of it.