Hello peppermint1 I really "feel you" on this one.
I feel like I came to therapy with a picture in my head of how things went and what happened in my past. It was quite a nice picture. Some not so happy moments but everybody has these right? I mean there were no big deal really...
Unfortunately everything changed. I talked about things and was told I got a lot of the names (labels) wrong... very wrong in some cases. My therapist calls things very different names. Names I donīt like at all. They are ugly and scary and heavy to carry around and I donīt want them to be mine or have anything to do with me!
When my therapists says them out loud it makes me angry because they hurt. They make me a victim of something and I hate it.
It is not therapists fault but living in denial can be a bliss.....and they take it away.
Rationally I know one day I have to look at it and see the truth and change the labels myself ...it will hurt but then it will get better .. it is a process and we can do it.
Best wishes on your journey