My heart bleeds for you BM, to see that you're still struggling with this decision.


IMO, you're putting way too much emphasis on what others will think or say and your role in the opinions they will ultimately formulate.


It doesn't matter what others think of you, I would worry more about what God thinks of me if I were you.


You are not this man's accomplice, in your own words, you are his property, so you behaved in the manner that was expected of you or you would have to face the consequences. So what if people realize your marriage was unhappy, abusive, a lie?


How does them knowing this affect you in reality?


It doesn't.


Your life still goes on regardless of their opinions.


I would hate to see you sentence yourself and your precious children to lifetime imprisonment out of fear of the unknown world beyond your prison walls...


That's a sad reality for you and an even sadder one for your kids.


Also, Your husband is not a "Good Christian man" please stop trying to convince yourself that he is.


If sitting in a church, ACTING like a Christian makes someone a good Christian, then sitting in our garage making engine noises makes me a Ferrari.


Your husband is a master manipulator, he puts on his Christian hat when it suites him, when it serves a purpose,to keep up appearances and have his ego stroked.


A good Christian man will treat you right all of the time, not some of the time when he's in the right mood or when he has something to gain.


A good Christian man won't treat his wife like a piece of property, he wont abuse his wife and scare his kids shytless.


A good Christian man would strive to be Christ-like, ask himself WWJD and try to emulate His behaviors to the best of his ability.


No, your husband is certainly NOT a good Christian man, regardless of the title he's received from his church!