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Originally Posted by CosmicRose
There are going to be lots of times when your boyfriend or your loved ones are not in contact with you for longer than 5 hours and that does not mean they are in danger. Do not let this control you because you could be doing so many other creative things with your time right now, seriously. No guy (or girl) wants to have their significant other checking up on them so often - I am dating a man right now and we can easily go an entire two or three days without texting or talking to each other.
You don't need anyone but yourself and if you insist on having all certain types of people in your life constantly check up with you to make sure they're okay - it will seriously drive people away. I'm not trying to scare you but I am being completely honest.
People need their space - it doesn't mean they got mugged or kidnapped or anything like that.
Go take a hot bath with candles, listen to music, meditate, watch videos on youtube, watch tv, read a book, paint, nap, eat, do anything to take your mind off of this because it is obsessive thinking and it doesn't control you.
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Originally Posted by BadWolf
Write down all the terrible things that could happen to him on a piece of paper. Then for each one write down what proof or evidence you have to support each one. When you finish, go back and rate the likelihood that each one has (or will) occurred.
Then, write down all the non-terrible things that could happen, and do the same thing.
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Originally Posted by Disorder7
I really think you need to see a doctor. Preferably a psychiatrist. This might just be a form of anxiety. Or it could be something else. Borderline Personality Disorder comes to mind.
But I'm not qualified to make a diagnosis. I'm just saying it may be more than separation anxiety. If I were you, I'd want to find out what it is, and fix it.
Take care.
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Imo these posts give you things you can really take some time to think about.
Also, maybe you can consider this. I'm going to reinforce what was already said to get down to my point:
Do you have other things to focus on? In short: people you can relate to in differing degrees (coworkers, friends/acquaintances, family...); hobbies/interests (could be anything really...idk gardening, photography, decorating, art, reading, cooking, writing - whatever you want...); and lastly pursuits (usually a blend of some of these things or all, depending on where you are in life, what you want and is available to you).
All of these things would enrich your life and along with them comes goals. When you have all or some of these things you have something to look forward to/work for, then you wouldn't be as intensely focused on your boyfriend or anyone else for that matter. I'm not saying focus in extremes by completely neglecting some things while wholeheartedly giving complete attention to others because that would be unhealthy.
Re-read that last sentence because I suspect that may be what you are doing here.
If you had other things that were just as important to you, you probably wouldn't be so centrally focused on him. I'm saying I suspect because I'm not you, I'm not qualified to say for certain (lol) and only you know how much truth there is in that. As already mentioned I too suggest you seek a counselor to walk you through all that's going on with you because there can be other factors you're not fully aware of and they can guide you in coping in healthful ways.
