Learning to bear these feelings is part of growing into a stronger, healthier person. They won't kill you before next Thursday. They won't even make you miss work or your favorite TV shows, haha, though they will distract you and discomfit you. But that's okay, because they'll also be giving you an emotional workout, expanding the depth of your ability to feel and connect to others.

You don't need to take those feelings away. You can if you want to, but I think you'll be hindering the process instead of helping it. Consider the intensity motivation for your conscious and subconscious to resolve the situation with her, to become more articulate, to better connect with her, to get clear on what is now confusing.

I've found that pressure a great asset.

This isn't a test, and as much as you like to be in control and have all the answers, it's not mandatory... think about the old adage, admitting one's ignorance is the beginning of wisdom.