It is a struggle, after a previous unhealthy relationship, I did therapy and thought I was better...then I met my current partner...seemed so diffetent that I was sure I was better. Long story short, while he was not into drinkg/drugs, he turned out to be control freak, who was more emotionally controling/kept putting me down. So it is a struggle to remember that we are all deserving of respect and to not accept less from others in their treatment of us. That we are all ok and to tell ourselves, positive self talk not negative.I'm trying to pick out positive things in my life each day.thanks for reading, sorry i ranted a little