For me, I can't imagine being able to stay sober without attending 12-step meetings regularly. For me, its about always being around the message and having humility to understand that I don't know it all. Having a sponsor helps with this humility as well.

I truly enjoy the fellowship I receive at meetings, and my 12-step fellowship has opened a wonderful world to me.

I originally didn't like 12-step meetings much either. But I realized that my way wasn't working very well, so I decided to try the 12-step program the way it was suggested. I stopped looking for the 'easier, softer way.'

From your profile I see you live in the San Francisco area. From what I understand, there is a great 12-step community in the SF Bay area, you are fortunate to live in such a great place for recovery.

With all of this said, perhaps there is a path to continuous sobriety that doesn't include regular 12-step meetings and/or a sponsor, but I haven't found it. I wish you luck in your search.