As far as the reciprocation angle goes, I would say that it is true that T's can't reciprocate in the normal way, but they can be as dedicated the relationship as you are, and they can respond to your emotions with empathy, which is exactly what your friend does when she shares a similar experience with you. The difference is that T's only show the emotion of this similar experience, but leave the experience private. Empathy necessitates making a connection between your own experience, and the experience of another, so you can be sure that T's experiences are in the room, there supporting you. But she doesn't what you to get caught up in them, and feel like you need to take care of her, so she give you one of the greatest befits of empathy--her understanding. And it is knowing that that understanding is there that will help you open up more over time. If you cannot tell when your T is empathizing or that she is dedicated to the relationship, you might discuss this and try to lean how she shows these things. I suffered through a number of therapy relationships where those things were not there. I think seeing those things, and knowing that they are there is critical. I have told my T that I don't mind if she shows that pain that she feels in her face, as it is helpful for me to know that I'm having an effect on the other person. T's sometimes don't do this though because it can make clients feel uncomfortable. I think that you should talk with your T about these kinds of feelings, before you seek out help else where. I think that there is strong change that talking about empathy and dedication to the relationship could help you feel safer articulating, or exploring deeper feelings.