Two weeks on since I started this thread and I am still undecided. I don't know whether, if I persist we will reach some understanding, or if that is impossible.

In my latest session I told her about a time I had felt misunderstood by her, I told her a bit of a story to explain more about the situation than I'd told her before and why I felt misunderstood. I felt that she brushed my feeling of being misunderstood aside really quickly 'Oh all I meant was...' and picked up some details from my story that she then challenged me on. I sat there aggreeing with the whole thing she was saying, which relates to her seeing me as needing to control my husband's parenting (I see the situation as he speaks aggressively to our children and I feel tense and powerless and upset about it).

I said to her at the start of the session that I worried that my time with her could be destructive to me, and she pointed out the absurdity of this considering she is benign and caring. I'm still planning to go again next week to try to explain how destructive and overpowering I find it. I have a feeling she will see me as needing to control her. The reason I want to keep going is that I feel that generally I never speak my thoughts, and I don't want to just walk away from her without doing it. Maybe she is a genius in that she has got me to this point where I will speak my thoughts to her - when I started with her I found it really hard to talk? On the other hand I won't find it pleasant if she turns what I say into a negative about me. I feel like she is trying to tell me how to live my life. She thinks it is absurd that my husband does a job that he dislikes - this is part of what I was trying to explain to her that I felt misunderstood about - but my view is that plenty of people do this, there is a lot of unemployment in the world, he is providing for his family. She said to me quite early on: 'you should be living your life and your children should be living theirs' I didn't have the chance to explore what she meant by this but I guess she thinks I spend too much time with my children - but I say there are lots of different ways to parent - is she telling me what to do and how my husband and I should live our lives?