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Old Sep 23, 2014, 06:21 AM
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I agree with the others that seeing another will only complicate things.
These feelings will go with you to your new t because these feelings/needs and wants are so deeply embedded in your psyche that they will always be there.
I think staying with your t and really working through them will be hard sometimes hurtful but in the long run you will be able to see what they are all about together.
I can understand why you wouldn't be able to tell your t how you really feel when she doesn't give you the response you want from her or perhaps you need from her.
I also hear some shame from you about these feelings. They are nothing to be ashamed about but maybe the response from your t made you feel ashamed because she wasn't very understanding.
Can I ask what kind of a team your t is? Cbt, psychodynamic, gestalt, psychoanalytical? Because their background and training makes a huge difference in how they handle these transference issues.
I find it very sad how ts handle this so wrong. I know they can't be our mothers but they can provide the love and support we never got, that we crave so much. It's a tough area but I think maybe if you asked your t is she is comfortable with transference and what's is her experience with it. Right now it is so important for you to feel safe and held by her
Thanks for this!
rainbow8