Oh geez, I'm so sorry. Wow... that's just... unbelievable. I'm also having trouble wrapping my head around a woman who would let her own kids suffer and go hungry to send money back to her parents. What the heck?

And, I know money is impossibly tight right now... if there's anyway you can get some support (counseling, therapy, heck - the free employee assistance line at work, if you have it?) - I think that might be helpful. Not just to help with your depression (and of course you're depressed, that situation would leave ANYONE exhausted and depressed), but to help you better understand what's going on with your wife and how to deal with it. I just wonder if she has some mental issues... because her behavior doesn't really make any kind of sense.

Oh, and I don't know if it will be helpful, but you might want to start documenting what's happening, in case of a divorce. The way you've described it, I'd be *horrified* if a judge granted her custody and asked you to pay child support, but stranger things have happened... I'm wondering if you can document some of this... if maybe that would help your (potential) case? Ugh... I'm so sorry you have to deal with all this though, instead of having a loving partner that supports you and your family... (((rdhick)))

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.